Figuring out what you really actually desire, versus what you are supposed to want.
I can’t over-emphasize the importance of step number 1. Step number 2 is where most “good” spells start and leave off, you can find the info in any number of magic and wicca and witchcraft books and blogs. But step 1 and 3 re often missing.
A great spell starts with truly knowing what you desire versus what you re supposed to want. It takes really examining your values, your priorities, what you believe you deserve, and what you believe you can achieve. Discovering this can take the form of journal-ing, automatic writing and drawing, or meditating among other things. I am working on a guided meditation based on what my teacher Jack taught me for this, and I hope to record it and share it with you this weekend.
Step 2 is where most books start, they have a list of things you are supposed to want: romance, money, luck, healing, to win. And you pick from the pre-determined wish list, and there is instructions that you follow, the instructions were made from correspondence lists either from the authors magical tradition or based off the psychological model which is whatever the author free-associates with the pre-determined wish.
Step 2 is easy to complete, super easy if you follow the psychological model. A little harder if you follow the traditional model because you have to find some ingredients that might be some effort to track down and purchase.
Step 3 is sometimes discussed in passing, how to wait for the spell to happen. There is some of the mages pyramid advice: to will, to dare, to be silent. Which is vital for many reasons and often overlooked today—which is fine—the psychological model doesn’t require that. But there are other things too, about how to wait that are truths in that model that take reflection and work to cultivate, but aren’t as useful if you flummox step 1 (but still worth it).
For a good spell, all you need is step 2. For a great spell step 1 and step 3 are wonderful, and Step 4—cultivating an attitude of gratitude helps for next time you are going to do a great spell.
I will continue to work on this series and expand on the steps as I can.