Its weird because the familiar spirit is everywhere yet nowhere. It appears in folk songs, legends, and witch trials. Yet almost no one talks about it in how to witch books.
Here are a few bits by my teachers:
I don’t always agree with every word my teachers say, but its a good start for a rough idea. Being bi-sexual some of my experiences are different, especially when it comes to the gender of my familiar, but ultimately my teacher said during mentoring it doesn’t matter and I am on the right track for me. Really its beyond gender—but dealing with and uniting seeming opposites is just part of the process.